An application, using for example appsink, can hold buffers from any
va allocator after setting the pipeline to NULL. We need to destroy
the allocator when that memory is unrefed.
This patch juggles a bit with the allocator reference count in
memories in order to achieve this:
1. When memory is created no alloc ref is modified
2. When memory is released, alloc ref is decreased
3. When memory is reassiged to a buffer, alloc ref is increased
4. When memory is flushed, alloc ref is increased becase it is going
to be decreased in gst_memory_unref()
Also this patch moves the deallocation of member variables to
finalize() rather than dispose()
Part-of: <https://gitlab.freedesktop.org/gstreamer/gst-plugins-bad/-/merge_requests/1815>
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